Part of this mediation exercise involves feeling Unselfish Love for someone you don’t like. Some of the people you don’t like may deserve your feelings, they may be bad, or have done terrible things. This meditation technique is not intended to help you accept or "be alright with" the negative personality, lifestyle, or actions that some beings have created for themselves. Or to get you in the mental disposition to allow them back into your life. It is to get you to let go of them in an Unselfishly Loving manner, and also get you to relate to the essential being, the spiritual spark inside them, and still love & care for that. We can, and should have compassion for the spirits of those whose choices have led them into patterns of destruction and suffering. If we don’t, we are having a spiritual crisis ourselves. But we don’t want to personally accept those choices as "alright".

To begin this visualization meditation, ask yourself the following questions - and answer them: "What is Unselfish Love?"; "What does it mean to be Unselfishly Loving?"; "Am I always Loving Unselfishly?" (and if the answer to that is no, think about the most recent situations in which you haven’t loved Unselfishly, and go on to the next question); "Why did I not Love Unselfishly in that situation?" Once you have thought about it, let go of the thought about why you didn’t Love Unselfishly. Why? The reason why you did not Love Unselfishly is not as important as making sure you will Love Unselfishly from now on. Now, again think about the situation in which you were not Unselfishly Loving. Completely visualize it again in your mind, only this time, visualize yourself being Unselfishly Loving, and visualize the results of that.